A lady with bums out in the name of fashion
Dear readers,
Decent and proper dressing are two different aspects. Decent means that you are dressed according to the function, culture or beliefs (decent clothing means non revealing stuff).
Proper does not necessary need to be decent but in tune to what the surroundings are. Many hold the view that 'kade ya baganda' or Uganda's national dress is a decent dress. Of course, it is, but only when one wears it properly! Any dress, for that matter, can be worn both decently and indecently. The mode of dress has nothing to do with decency, but the mode of wearing it has something to do with it!
I've always wondered, while many men have confessed that seeing sexy women is eye candy and exhibitive enjoyment to their sight and imagination, at the same time, many also prefer not to have to see girls in outfits less than robes and cloaks. One psychology professor once told me that most men naturally like seeing naked women and I'm wondering up to now if it is true or not since I cannot do primary research just on myself alone. But then again, Hawaiian women in their traditional dance attire, you've gotta admit, are sexy, but that's their culture. Musician Madona on a stage singing used to get a lot of male customers because of her indecency dressing and sexual acts but is this really the way to go.
I've always wondered, while many men have confessed that seeing sexy women is eye candy and exhibitive enjoyment to their sight and imagination, at the same time, many also prefer not to have to see girls in outfits less than robes and cloaks. One psychology professor once told me that most men naturally like seeing naked women and I'm wondering up to now if it is true or not since I cannot do primary research just on myself alone. But then again, Hawaiian women in their traditional dance attire, you've gotta admit, are sexy, but that's their culture. Musician Madona on a stage singing used to get a lot of male customers because of her indecency dressing and sexual acts but is this really the way to go.
A lady with bums out in the name of fashion
A catalogue of social vices is plaguing the contemporary Uganda society. Among these, indecent dressing by the womenfolk stands out very vivid as one of those most problematic anomalies that have destructively engulfed the Uganda social system. In fact I will go so far as to say that Indecent Dressing is one of Uganda's biggest problems though not bigger than lack of toilets but It is bigger than corruption, AIDS, and even domestic violence.
The way women dress in urban centres like Kampala and Jinja has turned out to be a breeding ground for many other societal malaises like sexual promiscuity, rape, prostitution, and spread of sexually transmitted diseases. The society has been penetrated with a lot of fashions from the western nations and most youths tend to take this as 'modern'.
Though a girl is at perfect liberty to choose her own mode of dress, the fact remains that indecently revealing dresses instigate the opposite sex and adds fuel to the (already) burning fire. Though there is definitely some logic in the question, “Then, why should men eve-tease and molest even the decently-dressed girls?” a sane girl would ponder the consequences of inviting avoidable trouble on herself by wearing such dresses that border on obscenity by posing herself the counter-question, “When most men cannot behave decently even with decently dressed women, what a more dangerous situation an indecently dressed girl would be inviting upon herself?”
Even God knows that looking at a woman's flesh is a torture for most men and that 's why Islam tells us not look more than twice at some body you are capable of marrying. As for the bible, you only have to look at Mark 9:47:'and if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell'.
Please don't leave your values at home. Whatever you do professionally, don't leave your values at home when you go to work just because you wanna impress other people. Many people think that dressing weird or having your body pierced is a statement of individuality, strength and rebellion against the dominant culture. Not true. The ultimate counterculture and strength in Uganda today is to take religions seriously. If you want to be an individual and to be strong, affirm a higher value system that enables you to say no to the prevailing culture that your subconciuos mind considers wrong. Celebrities have also got a big role to play in shaping up decency in our society because lots of young kids are looking up to them as role models.
Abbey Kibirige Semuwemba
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